dad left me for new family…?

(sorry for punctuation) I’m a guy.

I’m tired of my dad letting me down. I’m 16. I don’t live with my dad. I lived with him for the summer and like they have no standards. I was the cleanest out of all of them they didn’t take care of themselves and didn’t keep their rooms clean. that included my dad it was ridiculous how dirty they were. I’m lazy but I have standards. I live with my mom. My dad left me when I was younger for about a year iI know it was a long time. He said "he was getting his life together" Finally after all that time i see him again. He takes me to meet his new family. He has a new wife and a stepson(18) and stepdaugther(16). They bully me and i’ve told him about it and he just laughs. To me he shows more care for them than he does for me. His house is super dirty they have a dog that pisses on everything and there never clean it up. I don’t like spending nights there because of how dirty it is. I alays have to sleep on the couch because i have no room there or even at least a guest room. They are more active i would say than me because there in rotc/sports and have really high rank and i was in rotc and quit because i didn’t want to do it and then my dad wouldn’t talk to me for over a month. Now my dad is saying he;s gonna help me get a driver license and teach me to drive. It’s been nearly 3 months since he said that. he only took me driving twice but has taken my stepsister dozens of times. Christmas came by and he didn’t get me anything but they got ipods and everything. my birthday passed and he didn’t do anything for it. There birthday came and he went all out. Another christmas and birthday of mine go by and he does the same thing. I know I’m 16 but I can’t find a job and have tried. I’m tired of this and when i try to talk to him about it he takes it like its a joke. he calls me names like nerd and stuff. I’ve tried multiple times. I’m to the point where I’m thinking of cutting him out of my life if he’s going to be that way. What should i do and how would you feel if you were in this situation?

you’re in a tough spot. My step son is 16 and he goes through a similar experience with him real mom. He lives with his dad and me and my two sons. His mom never gets him anything for Christmas or birthdays either and promises that she will when she get her tax money but never a thing. My step son has been so broken hearted by his own mom treating him this way when his two sisters like your step brothers get whatever they want. His mom lives with his grandparents and their house is nasty to, no one cleans and everyone in the house smokes and everyone lives there off the grandparents(my step sons mom, his two sisters, his sisters husband, his cousin and her boyfriend. That’s a lot of smoke! Any way he has made the decision not to cut them off but to ease away from the situation a lot more. If his mom calls he talks to her and is considerate but doesn’t spend so much time as in over night visits anymore, he does every once in a while but mostly just spends the day with them unless his mom calls and asks for him to stay. There is always a choice to have positive people in your life or negative ones and if you feel your dad is a negative one that is affecting your self esteem in a negative way and you have already tried to talk to him to no avail then think carefully about your choices and maybe ease off for a while, sometimes absence does make the heart grow fonder. Most importantly, always know your worth and don’t let anyone lessen it in any way. You are a beautiful creation of God and if he gave his life for you then you know you must be a pretty important person!