i have to start this at the beginning so you understand it all. so about 18 years ago i did something i’m totally ashamed of. i wanted so bad to fit in with the people i was hanging with. i was the nerd of the group. i went with a friend to her boyfriends house and her boyfriend and her was doing the dirty deed . there was another guy there and my friend asked me to do him right there in frount everyone. well i agreed.( i was stupid i know i was a kid) well me and the guy started to do the deed and in the middle right before he could put it in i whispered in his ear please just make it look like we are dont really do it. well i guess he didnt hear me. or i was expecting to much to get him to stop when he was that close to doing it we ended up actually doing it. when it was over i went to my friends house where i was supposed to stay the night. i called my sister to come after me. i told her i wasnt feeling well. so when i got home i went to the bathroom and filled the tub with nothing but hot water and pine soil. my sister could smell the fumes from the bathroom an came in. she asked me what happened and i told her. she told my mom and my mom called the cops on this kid. i keep trying to get everyone to understand that it wasnt rape. but at the time no one would listen to what i was trying to say. some how it got around the school that i acused this kid of rape i was treated so bad at school that i had to change schools. it wasnt until about a month later that i was asked to pick him out of a group of picks. the detective was watching me closely and she knew that i knew what pic was his but i wouldnt point him out and she took me to another room and we talked and i finally got someone to hear me out and the detective and i talked to my mom and got her to drop the charges. and for the last 18 years i have wanted to tell this kid who is no longer a kid i am sorry and that i did everything i could to stop my mom from doing what she did and tried to do. god it feels good to talk about this in a way i have held it in for the last 18 years. well here is the problem i have been friends with a guy for the years but we dont hang to much with each others friends. but over the last month i found out he is friends with the guy that my mom tried to have put in jail. and i know if he ever was to say my name to that guy he would tell my friend what he was acused of. so do i tell my friend now and risk losing him or do i wait and see if the other guy is going to say something to him about it an know for sure my friend wont talk to me. please help.
I can 100% guarantee that he will MUCH rather hear it from you than his friend. Either way he has to know that the past is in the past and you can’t change it. I’ve had to cope with things my girl has done in the past. It’s hard at first but time heals all. I’ve also caught my girl doing things I didn’t appreciate, and I know I would have much rather her told me than me having to find out like I did. Like I said it’s hard, but it’s the best thing to do. You’re a strong person, you can do it.
February 8th, 2010 at 12:38 am
Simple. Link him to this page.
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February 8th, 2010 at 12:56 am
Tell him the truth before he hears it from his friend. One way or another he’s going to find out. It’s better to give him the real version first.
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February 8th, 2010 at 1:34 am
Explain to your friend carefully. He is more likely to believe you if you come to him and tell him the truth rather than the guy telling him about it and you having to more or less say the guy is a liar. Be straight with him and tell him.
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February 8th, 2010 at 1:55 am
what a story. Tell him first its the least you can do. He will forgive you eventually if he doesn’t at least you will have a clean conscious
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February 8th, 2010 at 2:41 am
Tell him…..
You did nothing wrong (well, you know what i mean)
Im sure you bf will understand. Link him to this page.
Good Luck
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February 8th, 2010 at 2:52 am
& you seriouly choose yahoo answers instead of Oprahs show ….ok let me just help, tell your friend coz the truth eventually comes out in the future…& by tha way was it good? eh keep me posted!
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February 8th, 2010 at 3:02 am
I can 100% guarantee that he will MUCH rather hear it from you than his friend. Either way he has to know that the past is in the past and you can’t change it. I’ve had to cope with things my girl has done in the past. It’s hard at first but time heals all. I’ve also caught my girl doing things I didn’t appreciate, and I know I would have much rather her told me than me having to find out like I did. Like I said it’s hard, but it’s the best thing to do. You’re a strong person, you can do it.
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Experience